This photo aptly illustrates my approach to life and to parenting. In our family, we spend a lot of time just chilling out and soaking in. I could say that this is because I understood from the beginning that “doing too much can be debilitating for kids whose brains are still developing,” as I recently read.
The truth, though, is that slow and steady is the pace that feels comfortable to me. And I’m the one running this show, gang. I find packed schedules and rushing around very uncomfortable. For me to have any patience with my kids, any emotional energy to face life’s challenges, or any ability to think deeply, I need to live at a calm pace. Some might even call our gait leisurely. I want to be available to my kids, to my friends, and to my community. That takes time and flexibility.
To maintain what feels to us like a sane pace, Rick and I have had to make dozens of difficult, even painful, choices. Continue reading “The complexity of choosing simplicity”