Things I’ve learned in 15 years of marriage


Rick and I celebrated our 15th anniversary last week.

Here’s what it looked like: the dog and I were driving home from dropping the kids off at school when I spotted a familiar figure walking down the street. Remembering the date, I pulled over and wished him a Happy Anniversary. He came over to the driver-side window and gave me a kiss. Then I went home and re-financed the mortgage.

Fifteen years is a long time in a life and in the world. When we were married in 2002, wedding invitations were always white or cream, George W. Bush was president, and no one had ever heard the terms “social media” or ISIS. Half the country still had landlines. Everyone else had flip phones.

We ourselves have changed, too, in these years. Here are a few things I’ve learned:

  • Goetsch is not, in fact, a lateral move from Carlson.


  • The point of the Death Star was the lasers, not meeting space for Darth Vader.
  • Not everyone likes their socks rolled into balls despite how this “exercises the elastic” (as I so patiently explained to Rick).
  • “In sickness and in health” is serious business. And growing old together does in fact mean growing old.
  • Some people truly believe green and gold is a pleasing color scheme, a reality I stumbled upon in an awkward conversation with my in-laws.
  • Even if you are blessed with biological children, bearing children is always a wild ride full of surprises.
  • True loves means taking a stool sample for your spouse.
  • While height in a man is good, a 13 inch difference does not make for good photos or smooth dancing.
  • You need more than love. You also need an orange cat.


  • Cleveland, Ohio is a truly great city. The life for the dollar is unmatched.
  • It is possible to get 22 weeks into a pregnancy without realizing there are two babies.
  • You don’t have to bake or play board games with your children if their father will.
  • My hunch was right. Character matters more than anything. And intellectual and spiritual compatibility go a long way. Humor, too
  • He was worth the name downgrade.


©Laura Goetsch and Thinking About Such Things, 2017.


5 thoughts on “Things I’ve learned in 15 years of marriage

    1. I’m sorry you were disappointed, Delores. Having written more reflective, serious posts about marriage in the past, I thought a humorous post might be fun. I guess we don’t have the same sense of humor.


  1. Patricia cARLSON

    It has been quite a journey. You are wise to recognize the blessings and the challenges. Both are part of traveling through life! Love, M


  2. Pingback: What in the world happened to Laura Goetsch? – Thinking about such things

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